July brings the 4th of July which is Independence Day. Congressmen voted for independence on July 2, 1776, then spent two days editing Thomas Jefferson’s draft of the text. They officially declared independence on July 4. In August they signed a carefully lettered parchment copy that today is housed in the National Archives.
Governmental independence is freedom to make laws or decisions without being governed or controlled by another country or organization. Revolutions are all about obtaining independence, most famously perhaps the Revolutionary War in America, which led to America’s freedom from Britain and a constitution which needs special attention today.
Independence is also viewed in a very different way that is very relevant to each of us and that is personal independence. Personal independence is a quality that many of us strive to achieve in our lives. It’s about making decisions for ourselves without help or influence from other people, managing our own lives, and feeling confident in our abilities without overly depending on others. Being independent can mean having life skills to take care of our physical needs, like cooking or paying bills, but also about being able to think for ourselves, make choices that reflect our true desires, and confidently pursue our dreams.
Achieving independence can make a difference in how we feel about ourselves. It can involve taking control of our lives, setting our goals, and working toward them without being swayed by others. This doesn’t mean we have to do everything alone. Seeking advice and support is a part of being independent too. But it does mean we take the lead in our lives, making choices based on what’s best for us. The process involves several aspects that involve self-awareness, courage, and persistence. With these mindful strategies, we can gradually build independence and lead a self-directed life. In addition, effective communication is important in finding independence. It may enable us to express our thoughts, feelings, and needs clearly, avoiding misunderstandings, so being assertive, and empathic builds stronger relationships and independence.
Another important component of independence is building confidence. We develop confidence by acknowledging our strengths, accepting our weaknesses, and taking on challenges. We can celebrate our achievements no matter how small and learn from failures without harsh self-criticism that encourage our personal growth. We can also build confidence and ultimately independence by having some alone time. Solitude can give us the opportunity to reflect, pursue hobbies, and understand our own thoughts and feelings. Some alone time can help in making decisions that align with our inner self and foster independence.
Trying something new and experience success can bring increased growth and independence. Exposing ourselves to new experiences and challenging our beliefs, whether it’s learning a new skill, traveling, or changing a routine, each new experience can contribute to our self-reliance and independence. Performing activities that we enjoy, such as walking the dog, cycling, or playing a sport increases our sense of independence. Independence is strengthened when we do things ourselves but we also need to know when to seek help from others and express our needs to others. Being independent doesn’t mean going it alone all the time, but knowing when to handle things ourselves and when to seek assistance. Asking for help when we need it is a sign of strength and self-awareness.
Becoming independent can bring benefits to many aspects of our life, from our mental health to our relationships. It boosts self-confidence and self-esteem, reduces stress and promotes happiness,improves decision-making, ensures we make ourselves a priority, and empowers us to achieve our dreams.
Independence is a quality that many of us strive to achieve in our lives. It’s about making decisions for ourselves, managing our own lives, and feeling confident in our abilities without overly depending on others. Being independent can mean having life skills to take care of our physical needs, like cooking or paying bills, but also about being able to think for ourselves, make choices that reflect our true desires, and confidently pursue our dreams.
Achieving independence can make a difference in how we feel about ourselves. It can involve taking control of our lives, setting our goals, and working toward them without being swayed by others. This doesn’t mean we have to do everything alone — seeking advice and support is a part of being independent too. But it does mean we take the lead in our lives, making choices based on what’s best for us. What better way to “add life to years.”
Lawrence J. Weiss, Ph.D. is CEO of the Center for Healthy Aging.
Dr. Weiss welcomes your comments on this column. Write to him at larryjweiss@gmail.com or c/o Center for Healthy Aging, 11 Fillmore Way, Reno, NV 89519.
